Please stop buying me coffee

There’s a thing people have started doing lately called “paying it forward.” The most common version goes like this:

  1. Go through a drive-thru at Starbucks and order your beverage of choice.
  2. When you arrive at the window tell the cashier that you would also like to pay for the order of the person behind you in line.
  3. Feel good about yourself the rest of the day for your “random act of kindness.”

I have news for you: this is not a nice thing to do for someone. Please stop doing it.

Let me tell you why.

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Why the Truth is Usually a Lie

Or: “How I lost all my friends writing a post about global warming”

Before we get started, it’s probably worth defining how I plan to use the words “fact” and “truth” for the purposes of this post. A fact is a discrete data point, something that is “true.” For example: the apple fell from the tree to the grass below. Truth, on the other hand, is a more general statement, usually an extrapolation from a series of facts. For example: there is a force called gravity that pulls objects down towards the the ground.

In my job, it’s not uncommon for someone to come to me, hand me a bunch of facts (data) and ask me to give them some truth. Seems straight forward enough. Except it almost never is.

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When you tell a man his opinion on abortion doesn’t matter, you’re being sexist.

I recently saw a conversation on social media that went something like this:

Woman: Well, if Trump gets impeached that’s almost worse because Mike Pence is really awful.
Man: Well, say what you will about policy but at least Mike Pence has legislative experience.
Woman: Well, you can’t possibly understand how bad Mike Pence is because you’re not a woman.

Then there are things like this:

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If you have said the above sentiments, or read them now and agree, guess what? You’re being sexist.

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Americans can no longer separate “What” from “How”

We’re all struggling lately with separating the “what” from the “how” in our political dialogues.

Take, for example, Jimmy Kimmel’s recent remarks about healthcare for his newborn son. Please watch the full video here, but essentially his son was born with a congenital heart defect that required immediate surgery for him to live. He related this story on his show and discussed how this defect would be considered a preexisting condition that might limit or prohibit him from being insured. His point was that regardless of your political leanings, we should all agree that children born with pre-existing conditions shouldn’t be denied treatment.

His statement has been taken and used by both sides in the argument about the Affordable Care Act (ACA). Democrats have jumped on it as another example of why the ACA is needed. Republicans have reacted to Kimmel’s support of the ACA with a variety of attacks ranging from showing that Kimmel’s specific situation would not have benefitted from the ACA to calling him a Hollywood elitist.

Here’s the thing though: Jimmy was right.

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Short Story Contest Round 3

Hi everyone,

I am currently participating in a Short Story Contest through http://www.nycmidnight.com. It’s a lot of fun! They give you a prompt, a time limit, and a word limit and you compete with other writers to write the best short story.

I would love any feedback you are willing to provide.

Here is my submission from Round 3.

Prompt: Open genre / A hoarder / Eavesdropping.

 

Loose Threads

SYNOPSIS: A young waitress passes the time by collecting secrets. The next secret may complete her collection once and for all.

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Short Story Contest Round 2

Hi everyone,

I am currently participating in a Short Story Contest through http://www.nycmidnight.com. It’s a lot of fun! They give you a prompt, a time limit, and a word limit and you compete with other writers to write the best short story.

Here is my submission from Round 2.

Prompt: A comedy / A dog trainer / A first kiss

 

VERMONT CHEDDAR

SYNOPSIS: Dex and his dog Roosevelt are going to beg, borrow, and steal their way out of this town. And if Dex has to watch one more hour of old daytime TV, he might just take the coward’s way out.

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Short Story Contest Round 1

Hi everyone,

I am currently participating in a Short Story Contest through http://www.nycmidnight.com. It’s a lot of fun! They give you a prompt, a time limit, and a word limit and you compete with other writers to write the best short story.

Here is my submission from Round 1.

Prompt: A mystery / A gas station attendant / A break-up

CIRCUMSTANTIAL

SYNOPSIS: A 19 year-old girl is murdered and the detective on the case can’t let anyone see that he is only a broken man, with no right to fix anything.

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